I decided not to post regularly about my time in Vancouver the way I did in Athens, because honestly, it began to feel like a burden as I succombed to my compulsion to impress people. But I do want to share a little picture of what my life is like, so here’s a snapshot of my work experiences this past month!
I am the program manager of a recovery program for women with addictions who have been sexually exploited, which means that on paper, I’m responsible for making sure the facilitators deliver our classes effectively. In actuality, every day is a new adventure. I’m also co-house director of the second stage house, which means I share responsibility for the two women and one child currently in that house. It is not a lot of responsibility until it is. But nothing can really capture what a “typical” day looks like unless I give you a moment-by-moment breakdown. Here’s a random day from a while ago:
I was woken up by my morning facilitator telling me she would be late to work. When I got to the office, the woman who tested positive for opiates yesterday had solved the mystery by citing numerous examples of people testing positive for opiate use after eating a poppyseed bagel, which she had done. I went in the bathroom with her to get a second urine test, which came back clean. I wrote up an incident report, sent it to her social worker, and reiterated that so long as she kept testing clean this would be viewed as a bagel incident.
I led the AA devotionals by myself, then left the office with one participant to go downtown to Victim Services in the courthouse. She filled out paperwork for a refund for medical expenses incurred when fleeing her pimp and confirmed the court date for her testifying against him. We drove back to the office, and she made fun of me for not knowing a Justin Bieber song. When I said I was behind on pop culture because I’d been in Greece for two years, she said the song was three years old.
Three people stopped me as I re-entered the office, and there was a note on my desk saying the women were out of coffee and “coffee whitener,” so I snagged the opportunity to drive to Safeway for a few minutes of peace and for a tea latte from the Starbucks in the grocery store.
Then two of my bosses pulled the participant with daughter problems (who skipped program yesterday without calling) into a meeting. We all agreed that these temporary visits were more damaging than helpful, and that we would work toward her becoming healthy enough to bring her daughter into full-time care at a later date. But that meant getting her daughter’s father involved, so we planned for a big meet up at a separate location on Thursday morning. I was assigned babysitting duty at the house while that happens, thus wiping out my planned Thursday morning.
I went home and saw that my new housemate (who had said she was too sick to come in to program today) wasn’t there. I texted, asking where she was, but by 10:00 she hadn’t come home or responded. I conferred with my co-house director and my boss and texted her a final time to tell her we were setting the alarm and would see her tomorrow. I went to bed worrying she had relapsed and wondering where she was.
It’s all very spontaneous and requires an enormous amount of emotional intuition, but I am loving the challenges. It’s incredibly draining sometimes, but my housemates respect my need to spend most of every night in my room with my cat, so it hasn’t yet been overwhelming. However, the effort is more than worth it when I have moments like a woman comes into my office to share an emotional breakthrough she had with a genuine smile covering her face.
I love the women. They’re so smart and funny and hurt and earnest. It is INCREDIBLY wonderful to speak the same language and develop relationships that go beyond body language. I genuinely like them all and enjoy spending my days with them. Their commitment and their honesty about their failures is incredibly refreshing to me, and I wish everyone had the opportunity to know them the way I do.
So for anyone wondering: that’s my life!
Thx for the update!