Letters Between Friends: PERSONALITY TYPES

Hah, this letter from Lindsay is a perfect lead-in to my post going up tomorrow about how I recently realized I’m a Type 4 instead of a Type 9 in the Enneagram personality test.  Tomorrow the post will be largely a freak out, but Lindsay’s letter today makes me feel a lot better about being a 4!  Especially if it means Lindsay and my personality types go together so well!


Dear Tricia,

We’ve been talking sooo much about personality tests lately, so I feel I should write you about that.  [Notice I write “feel” which means I’m an emotional person].

In the Enneagram Test:

  • I am a #2 The Helper: Caring, Interpersonal Type: Generous, Demonstrative, People-pleasing and Possessive

o   “When moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), prideful, self-deceptive twos become more self-nurturing and emotionally aware, like healthy Fours.”  YOU’RE A FOUR!  Ha!

  • You are a #4 The Individualist: The Sensitive, Introspective type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental

I looked at what #2 & #4 bring to a relationship…yes, I think they were more directing info at a dating relationship, but they had AWESOME things to say:

Enneagram Twos and Fours can be a safe place for each to share their hopes, fears, and insecurities. They can be good medicine for each other: Twos contribute sociability and energy, giving Fours the confidence to interact more easily with others.“

“Fours also bring emotional depth and sensitivity to their relationships, a sense of mystery and unpredictability, sensuality and sexual freedom. In short, Fours invite Twos to take a closer look at their deeper needs, the truth of who they are and what they actually feel.”

We go together like Peas & Carrots!


You should totally read more.  I was laughing at how we DON’T mix.  I was also realizing…do you think that the creator of the Divergent series read these, and FOUR/Tobias had a deeper meaning…it was kind of weird! Things that make you go….Hmmm…

I’m sorry I don’t have much to write you.  I’ve been with you this whole week AND I’m planning your party, so to have an expository or narrative thought is slightly difficult at the time.

See you this weekend!  For your PARTY!



Check out Lindsay’s blog Wild Ginger for more of her personality and passions!


3 thoughts on “Letters Between Friends: PERSONALITY TYPES

  1. Tricia November 12, 2015 / 3:54 pm

    Of course I had to click the link and read more! I definitely agree with the quote about us being a safe place for each other – I think I’ve mentioned that in nearly every letter I’ve written to you!

    I also really like this, and I think it’s true for us. “They can lighten up each other with unexpected humor and appreciation of each others’ quirks. Each invites the other to mature emotionally, usually without saying so. Both help the other to stop being so concerned about what others think of them and to become more inner-directed.”

    And then this: “Usually Twos and Fours make better friends and colleagues than intimates.” Thank God, hahahah.

    “They both need closeness and intimacy and tend to cling to anyone who responds to them sufficiently. Over the long term, there is the tendency to become competitive for attention or for one person to feel better liked and more appreciated than the other.” Maybe the fact that we so rarely live in the same place (and therefore don’t compete for people’s attention and affection) is a good thing?

    That last paragraph – yikes! Good thing we are best friends and not married. We can support each other and understand each other without falling into the trap of resenting each other.


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