Living with Grandparents

When I planned to move back to my hometown for several months before moving to Greece, I knew I wanted to spend more time with my grandparents.  Although I’m committed to staying in Greece for just one year, I’m acting as though it will be forever.  That means I want to soak up as much time with the people I love as possible.  I wrote about how much I admire their love for each other during my Valentine’s Week series, and I will repeat myself: my grandparents are two of my very favorite people.

What’s the easiest way to spend time with someone?  Move in with them, obviously.  (Plus, while there is a stigma against 27-year-olds living with their parents, I don’t think society has decided to judge people who live with their grandparents.)  As anyone who has moved in with their best friend knows, living with someone can make or break a relationship.  And while I’m committed to loving my grandparents forever, I wasn’t sure if I would wind up liking them by the end of our two months together.  Haha, just kidding, it was fine.  In fact, it was great!   Continue reading

A Romantic Ideal: Harold and Jean Stark

I tend to have an unhealthy view of romantic relationships, either by idolizing them and assuming marriage will solve all my problems or by demonizing them and assuming marriage is a playground of horror.  Thankfully, I have men and women in my life who model healthy relationships.  None more so than my grandparents, Harold and Jean Stark.

DSC00042I once asked them to describe the hardest thing about marriage.  “Oh, it’s not that hard,” Grandma said.

“What?  Come on.  What do you fight about?” I asked.

Grandpa drummed his fingers against the table.  “We don’t fight.”

Grandma covered his hand with hers, cutting off the repetitive noise.  “Stop that, Harold.  Well, I get mad with how fidgety he is.  But that’s pretty much it.”

I think there is a 100% chance that they have fought at some point in their marriage.  But after 61 years of living together, I find it extremely adorable that those times of animosity have faded into something inconsequential.  Continue reading