This is an excellent book for people who have ever been in an unhealthy relationship (everyone). The three sections, “Unsafe People,” “Do I Attract Unsafe People?” and “Safe People” concisely describe the patterns of relating that people naturally fall into. Cloud and Townsend help their readers identify people in their life who are unsafe, and equally important, help readers identify what personal habits they have that perpetuate unsafe relationships.
Boundaries (which, coincidentally, is another book by Cloud and Townsend) play a huge role here. I loved the delicate balance they find between owning our own flaws and holding people responsible for theirs. There’s no blaming, just understanding. And there is so much hope! Whether you constantly find yourself in draining and/or abusive relationships, or perhaps you simply have a person or two in your life that drive you nuts, this book offers the possibility of reconciliation, growth, and maturity. I loved it, even when some of the descriptions were a little too on-the-nose.
The wounds inflicted by an “unsafe” person can go deep. If you’ve ever been in a relationship where you were used, abused, or abandoned, then Safe People is for you. It will help you make wise choices in relationships from friendship to romance. You’ll discover why good people can get tangled in bad relationships. And you’ll learn how to avoid repeating your own mistakes and how to pick safe, healthy people for the friends you make and the company you keep.
Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend share expert insights that will help you:
- Correct things within you that jeopardize your relational security
- Learn the 20 traits of unsafe people
- Recognize what makes people trustworthy
- Avoid unhealthy relationships
- Form positive relationships
- Become a safe person yourself
Safe People will help you restructure your approach to relationships. Put an end to getting burned–and start enjoying the healthy, balanced relationships everyone wants and needs.
Release Date: October 1996