I was recently introduced to quite possibly the simplest, and most fun, personality test. It consists of only three questions, and the results were wildly accurate! If you want to play along, before you read about my answers and discoveries, answer these questions for yourself:
- What is your favorite color? Explain why with a couple sentences.
- What is your favorite animal? Explain why with a couple sentences.
- What is your favorite part of nature? Explain why with a couple sentences.
Don’t skimp on the explanations! That is the important part!
Okay, once you’ve got your answers….here’s what I said. Continue reading →
My sending organization made me take a 45-minute long personality inventory last week, and today a man walked me through the results. The Birkman stands apart from Myers-Briggs or the Enneagram because it focuses mainly on the difference between how a person acts, and how they want other people to act toward them.
This is useful in group situations, because most of the time we mirror each other. If I chat for a while before getting to the real issue, chances are you will do the same. Generally, that’s fine, and people want to be treated the way they treat others. But occasionally, the way you interact with the world is NOT the way you want the world to interact with you. That’s totally okay, but it can be confusing (both for you and for the people working with you). The Birkman tries to erase that confusion so that you can pre-emptively inform someone: “Hey, I like to chat a while, but I’d really prefer if you just got straight to the point with me. Thanks!” Continue reading →
If you don’t know what the Enneagram is, this post won’t make much sense to you. Check out The Enneagram Institute for more information, and take one of their tests to find your personality type.
Several days ago, I wrote a blog post about my identity crisis when I realized I was not an Enneagram Type Nine, but was instead a Type Four. I hated being a Four, partly because my brain was wrong that I’d been misidentifying myself, and partly because Fours just kind of seem awful! But over the last couple days, I’m coming around to being a Four.
For one thing, Lindsay wrote me a letter about how our friendship is compatible based on our personality types (she’s a Two). It was helpful to see that me being a Four brings something useful to our friendship. It helped me see that Fours aren’t ALWAYS self-absorbed and moody, but can use their emotionality to draw others into deeper and more intimate relationships.
For another thing, I read Mindy Kaling’s Why Not Me? which is a memoir that is about as self-absorbed and emotional as you can get–and it was great! She unapologetically admits her faults, finds humor in them, and offers her life as an example to be followed (or not). I’m pretty sure she’s a Four, and it felt so good to see someone with my personality doing something awesome.
Because the thing is, when I found out I was a Four, I still desperately wanted to be a Nine. All the emotional chaos that comes with being a Four is absent in Nines, and I liked thinking of myself as someone whose negative quality was retreating (instead of what it is: mulling over everything ad nauseum). So when I found out I was actually a Four, everything inside me wanted to be Someone Else. What traits could I learn that would make me more like a Nine? Anything to not be a Four!!
But. That’s awful! Continue reading →
I’m going through a bit of an identity crisis. The enneagram is a personality test, and for years I thought I was Type Nine: the Peacemaker with a Need to Avoid. I even wrote up a long blog post about how much I fit that Type. But then I got curious and wondered if INFJs are often Type Nines….only to find out they’re generally Type Fours. So I did a little research and was horrified to discover that I feel a lot like a Four. Naturally I then took two online tests, and it turns out….I’m a Four, with strong Nine tendencies.
What sucks is….Nines are awesome. They’re inclusive, good at adapting, and calm under pressure. Fours, on the other hand, are the WORST. Everything I read about them was just reading all the things I dislike about myself. They’re impetuous and moody, dreamy and unsatisfied. It turns out, I am a Four who desperately wants to be a Nine and has therefore cultivated Nine qualities in her life. But I’m a Four, the Individual with a Need to be Special.
FOURs draw their vital energy from others. Their life question is: “What do you think of me? Do you notice me? Do I catch your eye?”
Reading Richard Rohr’s chapter on Fours in The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective had me underlining everything and then burrowing my face into the couch. Being a Four is being so needy! And…I am! And I hate it! Unfortunately, I later learned that Fours are super hard on themselves, so my reaction to hating being a Four just means I am even more of a Four than I thought! Continue reading →
My friend sent me a link to this article, “Here’s Why You’re Still Single Based on Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type” which I immediately knew would be up my alley. Singleness? Personality tests? Self-awareness? Yes please to everything.
I scrolled down to INFJ….and barked a surprised laugh before staring open-mouthed at my phone. Continue reading →
I’ve scanned personality profiles for INFJs ever since I realized that’s where I fall on the Myers-Briggs chart. For instance, I am Galadriel from Lord of the Rings, Obi-Wan Kenobi from Star Wars, and Remus Lupin from Harry Potter. I’m a bit of a sucker for reading descriptions of INFJ personality qualities because I love that thrill of “Oh my gosh, that’s me. How is this so eerily accurate?”
I recently stumbled across 16Personalities, and their description felt like someone had psychoanalyzed me and published their findings on the Internet. If you know your type, you can read through the description under the “Type” tab. If not, the site offers a 12-minute test that you can take for free.
I’m going to list some of the statements that struck me as especially accurate. I don’t know how interesting this will be for the casual viewer of this blog, but hey! Think of it as a way to get to know me a little better. Continue reading →