I’ve Arrived in Greece!

The power went out three times during the flight from Detroit to Amsterdam. Everyone had settled in with movies or TV shows when suddenly all the screens went blank. A couple seconds later, all the overhead and tracking lights went off too. In the dark, hundreds of people sat silently for a good three minutes before someone official made an announcement saying yes, the power was out, and they were rebooting the media system. 

It was a real testament to people’s patience and endurance…and also a hilariously scary picture of how useless we would all be in an emergency. 


Halfway across the Atlantic, I hit the “What am I doing!?” part of moving. It’s such a strange feeling to realize you’ve decided to leave everyone and everything you’re familiar with and intentionally surround yourself with the unknown. Not only that, but I spent nine months fundraising and preparing to do this to myself!  With all that forethought, it took actually flying for the panic to set in.    Continue reading

My Last Week with Rory

When people ask what I will miss most during the year I’m living in Greece, I think they assume I will say a person or a food or something.  Actually, maybe they aren’t, because several people have asked, “What will you do without Rory??” with all the gravitas of a tragic question.

Rory is what I will miss most.  I tend to prefer animals over people anyway, and Rory is the best little animal on the whole planet.  For instance, a day in the life of Tricia and Rory:   Continue reading

I’m Packed!

There’s nothing I like more than packing and planning ahead, so of course three days before I’m due to fly out, I’ve got my suitcases filled and stacked by the doorway.  They were even under 50 lbs on my first try!

When I tell people I’ve got to pack a year’s worth of possessions into two suitcases, most people furrow their brows and look sad for me.  They are so wrong!  I LOVE IT.  I love moving and having the opportunity to choose the things I really like, abandoning everything else.  I love leaving holes in my possessions, looking forward to the things I’ll buy in Greece (shampoo and boots).  I love the feeling of knowing that I can fit my life into two suitcases, a backpack, and a computer bag.  It makes me feel free.   Continue reading

Packing for a Year in Greece: Entertainment

Based on this blog, it should be obvious that I take entertainment very seriously.  Ingesting stories is how I grow and/or stay alive.  So when it comes to preparing to move to Greece, the majority of my planning has revolved around books and media.

The one problem?  I have to pack a year’s worth of possessions into two suitcases and a backpack.  While I would LIKE to take two suitcases full of books, even I know that is impractical.  So I’ve improvised.   Continue reading

Oh Hey, Friday! 5 RESOLUTIONS FOR 2016

It’s been awhile since I’ve done an Oh Hey, Friday! link-up from September Farm and 5 on Friday from A. Liz Adventures, but when’s a better time to start than the first of the year?  However, committing to doing one of these every Friday is NOT one of my resolutions.

5 RESOLUTIONS FOR 2016

1|  Say yes to more things that scare me.  

Moving to another country is bound to create more opportunities to step outside of my comfort zone.  I’m not crazy enough to commit to saying yes to everything, all the time.  An introvert needs to reserve the right to say “I’m staying home, thanks!”  But I don’t want to let the chance to expand my comfort zone pass me by, so whether it’s hanging out with new people past midnight, jumping into the ocean, or giving up my weekend for an adventure, I want to say yes.   Continue reading

Letters Between Friends: A CHALLENGE IS EXTENDED

Man, even when Lindsay is “off” her blogging game, she still comes up with awesome letters.  I’m super excited to print this one off and tape it to my Greek bedroom wall as inspiration to live a little bolder…and weirder.

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Dear Tricia,

First can we please take a look at this picture today on my Timehop?!

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This was EIGHT years ago!  Like almost TEN, but not!

I had such high hopes for this letter!  It was going to be something awesome, like “5 Things You MUST Pack to Greece.”  But all I could come up with was scotch tape and chapstick.  Then, I was going to do pictures from our last few New Years Parties.  NOPE scratch that…Christmas Breaks…cope.  Not cool enough.

So, now here I am at 4p in the afternoon frantically trying to put this letter together, and I got nothing…Ok…I do best in lists, so let’s make a list of all the things you should do in Greece.   Continue reading

I’m Officially Moving to Greece!

As of yesterday, all of my paperwork is in place, and I am set to move to Greece in just seventeen days!

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I thought that fundraising was hard, but the last couple months of visa-planning and document-acquiring have driven me up a wall.  Maybe someday I will write a blog post about what a headache it is to get a student visa, but right now I’m still feeling the emotional headache and I don’t want to relive a second of it.  (That’s not true, I totally want to complain about it all the time.)

Now I have my passport, my visa, and my one-way flight itinerary.  I AM MOVING TO GREECE.  I always knew I was, but also….I worried.  Moving to another country is too good to be true, so something was bound to keep me from it, right?  But it turns out that I CAN have good things, and I intend to enjoy this one as much as possible.

The next couple weeks will be a whirlwind of last-minute purchases, packing, and goodbyes.  It’s going to be crazy, but I am so excited.  It’s happening!!

Skip to the Empowering Part

I borrowed an epiphany from my brother when I was visiting him for Thanksgiving.  Roy and Idil were giving me a tour of their house when I noticed Half the Sky on one of their bookshelves (I tend to focus on people’s books during house tours).

“I tried to read that, but it was too depressing,” I said.

“Huh,” Idil mused.  “I thought it was supposed to be really empowering.”

“Oh.  I didn’t get very far.  I just really hate reading over and over again about all the ways women are abused throughout the world.  But…maybe I’ll just skip to the empowering parts.”

Roy laughed.  “That’s an interesting idea,” he said.  “Why should we force ourselves to re-experience something we know is bad?  We have the right to give ourselves a break and just get to the good news.”

Yes,” I said fiercely, absolutely confident in my two-seconds-old opinion.  “That is 100% correct.”  Continue reading

WHO is Trafficked, and WHO are the Traffickers?

The glossary information in the back of Abby Sher’s Breaking Free was so good, I cannot summarize it.  Here in full is her description of the 3 most common types of girls who are trafficked and the 4 most common types of traffickers.

One of the most important things to understand about sex-trafficking survivors is that none of them wanted to go through this.  Sometimes it happened to them because someone promised them food or shelter.  Sometimes it’s because they were born into a society where they’re expected to be sexually used and abused.  Sometimes it’s as simple or familiar as trusting the wrong boyfriend.

Here are just some of the people who are at high risk for sex trafficking.

Runaways
As many as 2.8 million children run away each year in the United States.  The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children says that in those first two days of being solo, one out of every three of thsoe children are lured into the sex trade.

One out of every three.

Remember:  When someone runs away from home, it’s definitely a cry for help.  Something at home feels unbearable, and whoever is the first person to promise a better alternative holds all the power, even if what he or she is offering sounds sketchy.

Intergenerational Prostitution
In a lot of places in the world, “tradition” is the excuse used to keep girls and women down.  In India, 90% of the girls born to sex workers are expected to be sold into the sex trade, too.  It’s their “duty.”  In societies like this, the boys are brought up to be pimps and the girls are expected to be their prostitutes.  The girls can be as young as nine when they’re first sold, and their moms can be the ones bringing them to greet their first customers.

Undocumented Immigrants
Immigrants to the United States are super-easy targets for traffickers.  When they’re new to America, they often don’t speak English.  Or maybe they don’t have a job, they owe money to whoever helped them get here, and they have no legal protection because they’re not officially a citizen (yet).  The most tragic part of this setup is that immigrants are often trafficked by people from their home country who steer them the wrong way or promise them an easy ride, and then make them work off their debt by forcing them into the sex trade.

We also have to look carefully at who is doing the trafficking.  According to the United Nations, 46% of victims know their recruiters.  Here are some of the faces they wear.

Romeo
The Romeo Pimp is cunning and slick.  Once he homes in on his target, he acts like her boyfriend and promises her the world.  Romeo tells her she’s beautiful and sexy.  A lot of times, he buys her expensive presents like cell phones and lingerie that makes her feel really special.  Then he tells her she’s beautiful some more, especially when she puts on lingerie and does a little shimmy.  He thinks she’s so hot that he wonders if she’ll do a little shimmy for his friend.  It’s just a joke, he says.  Or a special occasion.  But this is only the beginning.  Romeo has big ideas for her and how beautiful and sexy she can be.

Dutch Loverboy
The loverboy of Holland is a special breed.  Since prostitution is legal in the Netherlands if you’re eighteen or older, the loverboy preys on underage girls.  He pretends to be an adoring boyfriend, doting on his girl with gifts and promises.  Soon enough, he starts taking her down to a red lights district and telling her this is just something fun they can try, or how it might help to make some money.  Sometimes the girls he lures are even forced to work in the windows like sex dolls for sale.

Sex Tourist
Instead of going to see the pyramids in Egypt or surf the waves of Costa Rica, some people travel to another country to buy sex.  They might go somewhere where they know the government ignores sexual abuse, where prostitution is legal, or where there is extreme poverty and police corruption.  Brazil, Thailand, and the Caribbean islands are hotspot destinations for this kind of customer.  Some sex tourists even blog about how many sex workers they have slept with during their travels, and they acquire a reputation as a sort of travel agent and pimp at the same time.

Guerrilla
This is the one who most often makes it into the news.  The Guerilla is the guy who lurks in a van or who corners his prey in the public bathroom and uses force to kidnap his victims.  A Guerilla will threaten his victim with knives, guns, or the promise that he’s going to kill her whole family if she so much as thinks of calling the police.  Then he locks her up in his basement or keeps moving her to different locations so nobody can find her.  When the Guerilla is finally captured and his victim is freed, a lot of times there are eerie testimonials from neighbors who say something like I had no idea he had girls in his basement.  He was always such a nice, quiet guy.

I encourage anyone interested in learning more about sex trafficking to read Sher’s book Breaking Free, the story of three different girls who were trafficked and came out of the horror with a passion to help other girls escape their fate.

Sex Trafficking (3 of 3): Caregiver’s Perspective

The following information comes from information provided by Redeemed Ministries at their weekend conference on Aftercare Training.

Christians, if not careful, can let a healthy passion for ministry turn into a martyr’s complex.

In psychology a person who has a martyr complex, sometimes associated with the term victim complex, desires the feeling of being a martyr for his/her own sake, seeking out suffering or persecution because it either feeds a psychological need, or a desire to avoid responsibility. (Wikipedia)

In pursuit of pleasing God (as though he has not already given us his love), Christians can run themselves ragged, draining their own resources in service to the point that they are no longer useful.  It is only with careful self-awareness that ministers can serve whole-heartedly…because they have made sure to keep their heart whole.  The first step to healthy service is to examine the cost.  Continue reading